Comments on: How You Find Yourself Divorced at 27, After 11 Months of Marriage https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/ A Lifestyle Blog Wed, 28 Jun 2023 18:06:13 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: haley https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643932 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 18:41:47 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643932 I have read and reread this about half a dozen times since you posted this about a week ago. This speaks to all of us who feel our 20s is a time to check the boxes, stay ahead of our peers and maintain a facade of effortlessness while we do it.

Thank you for your transparency.

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643931 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:22:33 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643931 In reply to Sonja.

YES! finding intimacy in healthy places is so important.

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643930 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:20:45 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643930 In reply to mikko.

sending you love!

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643929 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:20:24 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643929 In reply to Traci.

thank you Traci!!

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643928 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:20:05 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643928 In reply to NRG.

to each their own.

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643927 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:19:41 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643927 In reply to Grace Gobey.

thank you, grace! I’m glad it resonated with you <3

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643926 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:19:19 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643926 In reply to J.

I appreciate that. I shared the post with Joe before it went live and it was nice to talk about what my mask looked like and why communication is so important in our marriage today. Thank you for your comment!!

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643925 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:18:33 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643925 In reply to Amy.

thank you for sharing, Amy! and I agree on the strength that comes from these struggles. I feel in many ways I had to learn my lesson this way. Sharing my story is I guess my way of paying it forward. <3

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643924 Wed, 27 Feb 2019 17:17:29 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643924 In reply to sharon.

thank you, Sharon. this one really shook me to write but felt it was important in helping others know the dangers of hiding from your authentic self. Appreciate your support!

]]> By: Sonja https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643922 Fri, 22 Feb 2019 17:06:49 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643922 Thank you for this! I recently got out of a nearly decade long relationship (engaged, not married) and I what you wrote about cultivating friendships, giving even just a little space for your authentic self to find some courage, and gaining some confidence, rings SO true with what I experienced. Thank you for your honesty in sharing your story.

]]> By: mikko https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643921 Fri, 22 Feb 2019 01:29:13 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643921 Thank you. The pain is real. I know it well. Try to be free. Peace.

]]> By: NRG https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643920 Thu, 21 Feb 2019 16:27:23 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643920 I think this piece is far to cryptic to have any real impact or meaning.

]]> By: Traci https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643919 Wed, 20 Feb 2019 22:31:31 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643919 thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing this story – while no one’s path is ever the same, i echo certain sentiments and can appreciate how lonely and scary the journey of life can be at times.

]]> By: Kate Arends https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643918 Wed, 20 Feb 2019 18:26:34 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643918 In reply to K.

thank you Kate!

]]> By: Grace Gobey https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643917 Wed, 20 Feb 2019 01:35:19 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643917 just in time when you are wondering how to truly appreciate yourself and stop to force things. thanks!

]]> By: sharon https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643916 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 20:01:17 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643916 It’s a rare honor and a privilege to read such an honest account of your life Kate.I married for security and have always regretted it.
My soul felt betrayed and I have had to learn to forgive myself.
Deep soul work and love.We are all stumbling through it together.
Thank you again for your depth,insight and life lessons.

]]> By: Amy https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643915 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 18:44:48 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643915 Really beautiful, Kate. Thanks for sharing your story. I’ve found in my own story that the path to true self acceptance comes with some major falling flat on your face moments. I don’t think anyone comes to be strong or self sufficient without major struggles — and those struggles don’t look the same for everyone. There’s certainly beauty in every version.

]]> By: J https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643914 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 18:36:12 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643914 Thank you so much for sharing this, Kate.
Your honesty is so refreshing and I feel if we could all (men and women) move toward that we would learn so much from each other and become stronger because of it.

]]> By: Kate https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643913 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 17:34:11 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643913 I had a remarkable similar experience; thank you for sharing yours here. It’s reassuring to not feel alone in succumbing to the perceived pressures of perfectionism and societal expectations, and to read a story of someone else who has grown from that experience.

]]> By: Ashley https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643911 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 17:04:31 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643911 Reading Eat, Pray, Love gave me the courage I needed to NOT get married at 21. I didn’t want to admit it and in his pain, my ex loved to proclaim to people that I broke it off because of the book (making me seem silly and weak), but the truth is that the desire to end things already existed. Her ability to own her story gave me permission to own mine and be honest about what was in my heart. It gave me permission to elevate my own vision of myself and my life over someone else’s. It taught me that sacrificing and suppressing what’s really in my heart doesn’t end in happily ever after. Not getting married was absolutely the best decision I ever made, and I’ll forever be grateful for the role that book played in my life. Now I reject any suggestions that the book, and the movement it inspired, are a cliche. The book struck a chord because it gave women permission to own and honor their messy stories. I continue to follow Elizabeth Gilbert to this day and she remains a beacon of living life on her own terms, unapologetically. Thank you for doing something similar here and being willing to honor your own messy story. The chapter you’re in now appears to be pretty beautiful from here 🙂

]]> By: Amanda https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643910 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 16:39:20 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643910 Love this. Thank you for sharing. I am in a similar boat and appreciate your honesty.

]]> By: K https://witanddelight.com/2019/02/how-you-find-yourself-divorced-at-27-after-11-months-of-marriage/#comment-643909 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 16:11:38 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=33986#comment-643909 Loved this piece—thanks so much for your honesty.

(Just a note: It’s Elizabeth Gilbert, not Emily!)

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